Read this if you’re starting to feel stressed about the holiday season
As the temperature starts to drop and it gets darker earlier, we turn our attention to end of year planning and goal setting. I’ve had many conversations with clients about the change in season and the way that it impacts them and their mental health. The conversations naturally tend to continue on to the upcoming holiday season and the stressors that this season will bring. If you’re starting to feel stressed about the holiday season, you’re not alone. There are things you can do to help prepare yourself now.
Acknowledge your feelings
The holidays can be difficult, and it’s okay to feel upset, concerned, or grieve the loss of a loved one at this time. Whether finances, distance, or family dynamics are especially challenging this year, it’s important to acknowledge that difficult times won’t last forever. In the moment, try to understand why your feelings are this way this year, and accept them. Forgive yourself for any past mistakes or shortcomings that impact you at this time.
Make your plans
It’s time to start thinking about your plans for the holidays–what’s important to you? Who is it important for you to see? Do you need to do any shopping or meal planning? Setting yourself up for success by planning ahead is a great way to start to decrease stress and anxiety about the holidays–if you know what to expect, you’ll feel better about your ability to manage challenges during this time.
Set your boundaries and expectations
Consider what challenges may arise in your life during this time and make plans to set boundaries that are relevant to your needs. Consider attending fewer holiday events if you tend to overcommit yourself, take on less tasks like doing all of the family cooking, or consider asking for help from others. Think about what you need and communicate those boundaries and expectations for the season to those around you.
Increase self-care practices
During stressful times, self-care is so important, so make sure to incorporate it into your daily routine. You can even consider holiday themed self-care activities, such as grabbing a festive coffee with a friend, doing some fun holiday baking, or taking time to listen to festive music. Whatever you choose, make sure it is an activity that relaxes or re-energizes you to feel motivated to take on the season.
Reach out for support
This time can be overwhelming, and you don’t have to do it alone. If you’re finding yourself struggling and needing support, a licensed therapist can help you manage stress during this time to help you enjoy these next few months, rather than dread them.
Learn more about the author, Sam Nolan, MA, LPC, ATR-P here.
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